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Why your secret porn habit doesn’t only affect you: The connection we don’t always make

i Apr 8th No Comments by
“What’s the harm? Nobody has to know about it and it’s not like I’m paying any money.”

 

The detrimental effects of exposure to pornographic material on the human brain is continually being researched and the findings (from secular resources) are revealing something that Christians already knew…it will ruin your life. For our purposes, this is not the direction I’m going to take this post. Maybe you agree that it causes harm to yourself and even your relationship with God. But if those facts aren’t helping you to kill this habit, let me throw in another aspect of porn’s destruction to this world:

You are supporting sex trafficking every time you access pornographic material.

At 1Saved, we always tell people that rescue and aftercare are not the solution to this problem. This problem starts in the heart. And at the heart of millions of people around the world (mostly men) is a broken link. God designed sexual desire to be a gift that draws and connects us to our spouse and ultimately, back to Him. It is the main thing that is supposed to distinguish our relationship to our spouse versus every other person on the planet. It is the consummation of a wedding covenant taken before God. In this way, we get a taste of the exclusive intimacy we are to share with God in Christ. But the link is broken when we turn sexual desire into a right (rather than a gift) that we deserve on our terms at the cost of our relationship with God and with our spouse (or future spouse).

And so the slippery slope continues down to the point where we continually sacrifice more and more for the sake of this monster inside of us- the idol of sexual fulfillment. Pretty soon, we are willing to sacrifice the value and rights of other people in order to meet this insatiable desire. You can see that it’s not a huge leap at this point to take that plunge and justify hurting or abusing another (even a child) in order to get what we want on our terms.

The reader may be thinking now that the “slippery slope” argument holds no weight for them because they know they would never sink so low as to exploit people who don’t have a choice in the matter.

There are a million different ways the human heart will invent in order to justify sin if we buy in to the lie that it will give us true satisfaction.

 

This is especially dangerous with sexual sin. In Ted Bundy’s famous final interview with Dr. James Dobson, he talked about this process of going from fantasy to trying it out for himself.

“…once you become addicted to [pornography] (and I look at this as a kind of addiction) like other kinds of addiction, you keep … you keep looking for more potent, more explicit, more graphic kinds of material. Like an addiction, you keep craving something which is harder, harder, something which … which … gives you a greater sense of excitement, until you reach the point where the pornography only goes so far, you reach that jumping off point where you begin to wonder if… if maybe actually doing it will give you that which is just beyond reading about it and looking at it.”

Maybe you won’t be the one to reach that “jumping off point,” but you are flirting with something deadly if you even head down that path by clicking on pornographic websites or even simply not guarding your eyes. Don’t you think the one who created you and knows everything about you knew this slippery slope when he said these words concerning lust in Matthew 5?

“If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell.”

And when you look at the gargantuan problem of sex trafficking in the world, there are millions who have reached that “jumping off point” and have justified the abuse and exploitation of children both in person and online. And when we click on “free” pornographic websites, we give them business through advertisers who pay to keep the websites up and running which, in turn, creates easier access through a propogation of more and more websites that will meet the rising demand with and endless supply of all kinds of pornographic material.

Where are the men who will stand against the world that seeks to justify an abomination of the inherent value of all human beings and the gift of sex?

 

At 1 Saved International, we know that this fight is much bigger than us. We focus on each one that is saved out of child sex trafficking or online sexual exploitation of children (OSEC) but we also fight for the hearts of every person who encounters this ministry. We pray that you would be a representation of Jesus especially in your attitudes of the value of humans created in God’s image to those around you.

 

 

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